FIRST:
Be prepared to know yourself better. A serious appraisal of your life is essential to getting what you want. If you need to get to City of Nairobi by Friday, you’ve got to know where from you’re starting. A serious self-appraisal may take weeks to complete. Ask yourself these questions and answer them as honestly as possible:
- How well educated are you in the things you would like to know?
- How much effort do you put into each aspect of your life?
- What are your best and worst points?
- How do you choose your friends, your home, your job and your hobbies?
- How do you treat your friends, family and strangers?
- How deep is your personal spirituality?
- You have hundreds and hundreds of special traits, but how well developed is each of them?
- Which of your traits are the worst?
- What have you accomplished over the past twenty, ten, five, and two and in one year? In the past month? The past week? Today?
- Who have you hurt?
- Who deserves better than what you’ve given them?
- And most important, how close are you now to where you hoped you’d be when you looked ahead a year ago, five years ago, or even as a child?
Be prepared to cry a little as you make this appraisal of your life. Humans are far from perfect, and even the minor goals we set for ourselves are not achieved, and it can hurt to see exactly where you are. Draw upon every bit of serenity you have when making this appraisal, and always keep in mind you are on a fact-finding, not a fault-finding mission. Whether your strengths match evenly with your weaknesses on paper is not important. What you want is a written record of who and what you are in as great a depth as possible, a blueprint of your house which you can use as a base for improvement.
Great people in every field start with such a deep analysis and revise it yearly to chart their progress, and the time and emotion spent in such an appraisal will be chicken feed compared to the value you will receive from it. Do it together with a friend or a close relative to help you analyze yourself. You may use an experienced pastor or a counselor.
SECOND :
Make a special report based on your self-appraisal and include in the report everything you ever did which you didn’t think you could do. THIS IS ABSOLUTELY VITAL! It will provide you with enormous inspiration when faced with a problem you don’t think you can overcome. These are not only real-life success stories, they are your success stories, and positive proofs that there’s more in you than you might think. These experiences are the batteries you’ll use to power the shovels, which will move mountains in the future. Remember, even an almost-dead battery will start a car. Have this report in writing and keep it with your personal analysis, and make a copy in case you lose it. This will be a vital document in times to come.
THIRD :
Decide where you want to go in future. Most people fail because they don’t set goals worthy of themselves. If they do, they do not live each day in pursuit of these goals.
When you set your goals, make them better than you’ve done before, but make them achievable. In other words, if it is at all possible that you or someone like you could achieve the goal, it is worthy it. But don’t set them too low either, or you’ll be breezing through life, bored and unchallenged. Set goals for each day, for the next week, month, year, two years, five years, twenty years, fifty years (regardless of your age).
The next step takes no real effort, and strangely enough, it is the most difficult step for the average person to take.
FOURTH:
Commit yourself to making quality decision to achieve those goals, to strive for the things you want, which will make your life and yourself all that much better. Make that commitment from the heart, not at the lips! It will take time to really feel that commitment, and regularly reviewing the goals you’ve written down will make it possible to truly feel that commitment. You’ll go through agonies at first and wonder if any of this is really worth it, and that’s the point most people give up. Remember that repetition is the mother of learning and of getting committed. Remember this and you’ll look forward to that agony. Every change comes with pain. It hurts to be born, to fall in love, to pass an exam, run a marathon. Once you start feeling that pain, know it for what it is – your old self-screaming for life. To let your old self win is to let you lose! Always postpone self-gratification up to the later end. It takes pain to do so initially but that is the way nature has it.
Once you pass through that barrier of pain between what you are and what you want, you will know what it is worth every bit of discomfort. It is what is in for you that fires your will to keep on moving on despite the pain and stumbling blocks on the way of change for the better. You’ve been through it before, and you’ll need the memory of past incidents where you’ve made it to help you get through it.
You’ll need the support of others, too. You need to influence them to help you through the journey of success. So you’ll have to consider the people with whom you spend most of your time and space. If they are not as interested in improving themselves as you are, it’s time to expand your circle of friends to include those people, and make them the best you could want. Make your friends have inspiration to want to help you in your quest for a better life. You may share the immediate benefits with them. Remember that only what is rewarded is what is done and done with pleasure. Reward people that contribute to your success. Never be selfish. Once people notice you are selfish, they will move away from you very fast or later.
The final step is so simple and so tough; it literally separates the men from the boys who will never grow up. It means sacrificing immediate pleasure for real satisfaction down the road; so if you’re not ready to make the trade, go back two paces.
FIFTH:
spend every moment of your life in the most effective, efficient way possible in the pursuit of your goals. You’ll never be able to do this as well as you will want to, but that’s fine. Nobody spends all their time as effectively as humanly possible. The degree to which you can tune your desire to the things you want and discipline yourself to do the things that lead to getting them – will determine how successful you will be. Persistence breaks the seeming barriers.
Regardless of how weak you are now, you can and you will increase the value of your time and activities and garner more happiness than you might think fair, only if you’ll keep your failures in perspective. Think of them as lessons and gain something from them. Always remember to drop the details of experience and pick the lessons learned through them to help you move forward to your goals. Use your successes as a well of strength on which you can draw when you’re ready to quit. Winners never quit and Quitters never win.
Remember this, don’t spend your lifetime fighting to change or move the obstacles (mountains), if they can’t move, go round them and move on and leave them behind. You have such little time to live in this competitive world that you can’t afford any precious time fighting hindrances.
If you follow these simple secrets of life you will get what you want out of life. It has been proven time and time again by great men down the history, and centuries from now. The words may change, but the ideas will be the same. The methodologies usually change with time and place but principles never change. Always, learn the principles and apply your appropriate methods of the time and place to achieve the expected . This is wisdom!
For centuries men have tried to find ways of making this simple set of principles (guidelines) more complicated and more difficult to understand and follow. Most of them succeeded admirably. Most got what they wanted by doing so. What they really wanted was less than what they set out to achieve. Getting what you truly want is so difficult precisely because it is so simple. Humans are very complex beings and thrive on making things even more complicated. As for you don’t. Life is made of simple principles if you strive to get them and understand them.
It might help to remember that the foundation of every religion, belief, system and philosophy that has worked its way to a culture and taken root is personal happiness and the life instinct of self-preservation. In every case, the two are achieved by reducing things to their simple possible elements. The human mind comprehends and helps to execute the simple concepts. Always, make it simple to achieve! Remember KISS. Keep It Simple Stupid!